Friday, August 14, 2009

Fool Me Once...

Okay, maybe I am just tired. Or maybe I'm a bigger sucker than I care to admit. But here it is... I think I am going to give Michael Vick a second chance to make me loathe him. I am going to take him at his word that he is sorry. I am going to trust that the US justice system, in conjunction with Tony Dungy's wizardry, actually worked, and he is the changed man he claims to be. It's a big leap for me, I know, but why the hell not?

I do wonder if, had he not gotten caught, his epiphany and subsequent decision to "be a part of the solution" would have occurred? But I look back on all of the bad/wrong/stupid things I have done, and getting caught was most certainly a catalyst for change in some cases. Should that matter?

What's so funny is it is easier for me to be forgiving of someone who a) doesn't need my forgiveness, b) has millions of dollars to make himself feel better, and c) hurt sweet, innocent animals, than it is for me to extend the same to people in my own life, who have done far less. But I guess baby steps, right?

Oh, and Michael? I may forgive, but I certainly don't forget... Just ask my husband.

21 comments:

Debbie said...

I need to be more forgiving. I'm just always so quick to judge and be done with it!

Lovin Lane said...

Just wanted to say, nice to meet ya... I look forward to reading more about your blog... but so far I LOVE IT... I love your spunk....

Susan B. at warmchocmilk said...

Yeh, I guess we can give him another chance....but if he messes up again!!
Ok Ok. good post!

Jenn@ The Crazies said...

I donno Deb... I am not sure I am as forgiving as you. I just think he is a scumbag plain and simple... time will tell though!

Kristina P. said...

You are a much better person than I am.

Sassy Britches said...

How true is that (about being more UN-forgiving to people closest to us)? Is it because we have vested interests? Or think we can change them? I mean, I wonder if you would feel the same if you were Michael Vick's mother or something? Huh. How odd.

Em said...

Hubs and I had the same coversation tonight - I say, he paid his debt, let's see if rehabilitation really works.

Hubs isn't so kind.

I'll spare you details. But let's just say, he's got another good reason to hate the Eagles.

(are we seriously talking sports? I think you've just upped the eclectic-ometer.)

Under the Influence said...

I think it's easier to forgive "strangers" than it is those who are close to you because your expectations for those you personally know are a little different. Not necessarily HIGHER, just different.

I know for those close to me, I expect them to act better than most people, because dammit, they are associating with ME and I have standards. Yep. I do.

Wendyburd1 said...

I never forget either, I am bad at that!

Harlene said...

I feel just the opposite...I have spent too much time and emotion forgiving people close to me, to waste any of it on this twerp!

He's not even cute, or fun to watch!

Quirkyloon said...

Forgiving is one thing, but that doesn't always equate to reinstating trust.

I say let's wait and see.

And...I like Lovin'Lane..I love your spunk Deb!

You rawk Woman!

mama-face said...

Ah, I saw the headlines and wondered how 'forgiving' they would be if he weren't a famous athlete?

Well, that's a no brainer.

sheesh. Good post.

Ginger said...

Your a better person than I am, cause I can't forgive him. I am the voice of all the animals he killed or hurt. He's an ass.

Jyl @ MommyGossip said...

Totally off topic, Deb, but did I tell you how much I loved meeting you at BlogHer? Just wanted to make sure I let you know!!!! :)

Carissa(GoodnCrazy) said...

1) hello
2) forgive me the absence?
3) Jyl said she got to meet you at BlogHer.. !! Rude Rude Rude.. her for meeting you b4 me, Me for not going.. blech.
4) Who's Micheal Vick.. and don't laugh at me, I'm sure my husband knows and will tell me and I'll go ohhhhh him??? but anyway.
5) the whole forgive a superstar/politician/big shot before a family member is soooo..? What... sooo... well.. HUMAN.. huh?

Man I've missed ya'll!

{Kiki} said...

"Hide Your Beagle, Michael Vick is an Eagle!" Take care.
-Kiki

Heather of the EO said...

Would you forgive me if I said that I stole your deodorant swag from BlogHer?

I didn't...but hypothetically. Wait. I think you threw it in my HUGE bag...or was that Lee? Does that count as stealing.

No really. I wish I knew why it was so easy for me to forgive these peripheral people too. Because my husband surely cannot get off easily for ANYTHING. Poor guy.

Nanny Goats In Panties said...

Personally, I don't believe people change. For the most part.

Also? I do not personally know Michael Vick (and neither does a majority of the people watching him on TV) and for all I know, he didn't understand the wrongness of his actions. People can hindsight quarterback all they want and say, "How can he not know?" but I can TOTALLY see him not knowing, and it's the only way I'd believe that he won't do it again, because he wasn't so evil in the first place. To me, that scenario is more likely than him "changing". Does that even make sense?

Nap Warden said...

Yeah...not sure I forgive him. He was spotted in Ohare, and I was all "The Bears better not hire him!"

Not ready to forgive:P

dana said...

There's no forgiveness necessary where Vick or anyone who abuses animals is concerned. Animals are as innocent as newborn babies. And he placed himself in the position of being cruel.

I imagine he really loathes animals now, since THEY are what got him in trouble. As in "damn dogs. Look what they did to me". I wouldn't trust him with a dog unless there was a camera present. As for what he does for football, yes. Let him play. Not playing football isn't going to change him.

Beadiful Things said...

Sorry he got caught....