tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post5426638341171552323..comments2023-10-29T08:32:16.664-04:00Comments on Dirty Socks and Pizza: The More Things Change...Debhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07896271627723253157noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-77785658265591354062009-09-06T17:54:36.718-04:002009-09-06T17:54:36.718-04:00OH, I always worry that my children will grow up a...OH, I always worry that my children will grow up and be like me; all dysfunctional with each other as I am with my siblings. Hopefully they follow their father's footsteps.<br /><br />another belated comment.Mama-Facehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17580875108645568975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-83927287267257239122009-08-30T01:14:38.556-04:002009-08-30T01:14:38.556-04:00You can't assume responsibility for other peop...You can't assume responsibility for other people's actions, inactions, or reactions. Once you've accepted that, then you'll be a lot happier, regardless of how much you choose to interact with your family. But I'm sure you already know that and sometimes you get sucked in anyway, wanting to make things better, setting too high of expectations on other people and getting disappointed. I'm sorry you have to go through such a mess and the fact you are even one atom more self-aware than them means your relationship with your own kids is already SO much better.<br /><br />(((hugs)))<br /><br />- MargaretNanny Goats In Pantieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06019800312349427823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-1818997658174302992009-08-25T20:58:43.311-04:002009-08-25T20:58:43.311-04:00Family. Sigh. I so wish I had some sage wisdom for...Family. Sigh. I so wish I had some sage wisdom for you, but nope, I don't. My grandmother passed away and I still can't be sad that I didn't have a relationship with her. I saw things she did to my mom and dad that made me sick--one at my brother's funeral. I think later they wanted me to forgive and forget and I couldn't. I start to feel bad, then I stop myself. I don't think I'm helping you so I'll just shut up now:) I just wanted you to know that I understand.Bramblemoon Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01245480846208089568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-11151019390815317902009-08-21T09:19:06.180-04:002009-08-21T09:19:06.180-04:00Oh Deb - Hubs and I have this conversation on a we...Oh Deb - Hubs and I have this conversation on a weekly basis - will our boys feel the same, act the same? No, because we are not our parents - and neither are you. <br /><br />I'm sorry that you're hurting. So sorry.Ashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00084508582913500810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-5235405847346552492009-08-21T07:47:24.722-04:002009-08-21T07:47:24.722-04:00"And, oh, how I want them to look back and re..."And, oh, how I want them to look back and remember the happiness and unconditional love." ---- Yes! Me, too!Susan Holt Simpsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05749938089225810268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-70081184717732422502009-08-20T21:58:15.953-04:002009-08-20T21:58:15.953-04:00Thanks for your kind words.... Our kids really are...Thanks for your kind words.... Our kids really are wonderfully different that is for sure... Yes the life thrilling adventures I could live without....lol.. Helmet going on grocery list lol... I really enjoy your blogs and your creativity... Your blogs are so honest, creative and refreshing... And yes teenagers, whew that is way more that a blog post lol... My teens are not much into pics or posts, they prefer I abuse Lane... lol.. he doesnt know any better... what will I do when he is a teen...Lovin Lanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04809723188104983332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-79229758579890238382009-08-20T19:16:14.087-04:002009-08-20T19:16:14.087-04:00That one is a big fat, resigned, head-shaking sigh...That one is a big fat, resigned, head-shaking sigh.<br /><br />Families.<br /><br />Yup.<br /><br />xoxoAnn Imighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01383249597505013239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-42471672034313993432009-08-20T17:05:18.021-04:002009-08-20T17:05:18.021-04:00Family dynamics are so complex......it's too b...Family dynamics are so complex......it's too bad that they aren't always complex in good ways. Sigh.Claremont First Wardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02529859630615522678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-83504651495251683832009-08-20T15:33:47.700-04:002009-08-20T15:33:47.700-04:00oh we could talk ... and talk , about who we'r...oh we could talk ... and talk , about who we're not talking to, and why it's so hard to, and then we could blog about why it almost drives us mad, if it wasn't for the grace of , and those cute kiddie hearts.<br />love you a little reading this, <br />debAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15924061349390319473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-46461670525281964182009-08-20T14:45:43.355-04:002009-08-20T14:45:43.355-04:00I tell ya...what is it about parents from that gen...I tell ya...what is it about parents from that generation? sometimes i loath mine sometimes i feel sorry for them...<br /><br />HUGS deb!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13755834803574964576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-72580798740139033012009-08-20T11:12:03.225-04:002009-08-20T11:12:03.225-04:00I believe that being part of a family requires dea...I believe that being part of a family requires dealing with the good and the bad. Mostly the bad, unfortunately. It sounds like your brother's addiction is a live-out-loud symptom of your family's dysfunction and you feel the weight of that. But what do I know.<br /><br />I DO know that I'm always here for you. And I cheer you on in your endeavor to live in the Truth.<br /><br />http://aintnobodysgirl.blogspot.com/2009/03/truth.htmlNannettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03611086745465873328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-42056620725799474012009-08-20T10:42:04.321-04:002009-08-20T10:42:04.321-04:00That sucks - tough decisions.
All anyone (I) ca...That sucks - tough decisions. <br /><br />All anyone (I) can do is control their (my) own actions and be able to live with the actions they (I) choose.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02921336810725430983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-1383001337390544932009-08-20T02:24:52.241-04:002009-08-20T02:24:52.241-04:00Have you talked to your boys about it? Maybe they...Have you talked to your boys about it? Maybe they're not ready for such conversation / won't appreciate it...I just know that there have been key moments in my life as a teen and on up through the years, where I either actively thought to myself--or it was pointed out to me--that what was going on, what I was right in the middle of right then, was NOT how I wanted things to be later on in life, if I had any say in it. Kind of, witnessing an example of what NOT to do. Maybe it's me plugging my ears and screaming LALALALALA at the top of my lungs in the face of reality, but just deciding that my future relationships will NOT be a certain way is very liberating.<br /><br />Yeah, it's a work in progress =)jori-ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17948522321422834903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-41341126650952915202009-08-20T01:14:13.796-04:002009-08-20T01:14:13.796-04:00I'm not really sure what to say. I just want y...I'm not really sure what to say. I just want you to know that I'm sorry this is the way it is. For what it's worth, you are an amazing mom, and you would do anything for your kids. I don't think you have to worry about them feeling this way toward you - ever. Sending big hugs your way.Serahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11614955566762617374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-5244738566636424262009-08-20T01:12:22.455-04:002009-08-20T01:12:22.455-04:00That's rough Deb. Real rough. My heart goes ou...That's rough Deb. Real rough. My heart goes out to you and your family.<br /><br />Family relationships seem to be the trickiest!<br /><br />{hugs}Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-70102839242082541412009-08-20T00:34:50.915-04:002009-08-20T00:34:50.915-04:00I don't think cutting ties means cutting conta...I don't think cutting ties means cutting contact. Picking up the phone may cause heartache, frustration and 30 minutes of your life, but it's the little investments that you make now that could pay dividends in the future. <br /><br />Family is ALWAYS worth it. You can look back on your life and know that you did your very best to make the situation right. <br /><br />What they do should have no bearing on what you do as I assume it doesn't in any other aspect of your life, so why would it matter now?<br /><br />RonnieAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06849674714471543078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-71507301262165245532009-08-20T00:03:43.219-04:002009-08-20T00:03:43.219-04:00Wow, sounds like my husbands side of the family. ...Wow, sounds like my husbands side of the family. With an alcoholic mom, enabling grandparents, and a brother and sisters falling in the alcoholic ways....we are slowly cutting ties left and right.<br /><br />It breaks my heart.Summerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12638251600727697167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-3020264001141442152009-08-19T22:52:46.123-04:002009-08-19T22:52:46.123-04:00Happiness. Unconditional love.
I look at the larg...Happiness. Unconditional love.<br /><br />I look at the larger piece of my family and feel those things. And there are a couple of pieces that I have made smaller over time that I can't offer my unconditional love. Or hope for their happiness.<br /><br />I know how odd it is to see me comment tonight. I only hope it is received well.<br /><br />My sister is a heroin addict. And I can't lay it off on the drugs, or alcohol, she is simply...broken. And I have watched her hurt our family for almost 30 years. My mother enables, my brother and other sister love unaware of what they missed.<br /><br />And I'm commenting tonight because I understand some of what you feel. And I am hoping, for you.<br /><br />JayHalftime Lessonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11496754112523393227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-21923888799321339322009-08-19T22:50:26.776-04:002009-08-19T22:50:26.776-04:00What an appropriate title for this post. I am in a...What an appropriate title for this post. I am in a similar situation with my elderly parents -major communication breakdowns, denial through the years. We go along pretending, I try to decide if I am brave enough for a confrontation of sorts, I chicken out, and the cycle continues...your boys are fortunate to have a mom who cares, who communicates, who is compassionate and honest. Keep on doing what you are doing!Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10638456137129970537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434288999744029976.post-79200871961482978152009-08-19T22:43:24.324-04:002009-08-19T22:43:24.324-04:00Families are hard. I haven't talked to my own ...Families are hard. I haven't talked to my own mom in months.Kristina P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16144488639100871226noreply@blogger.com